Hows your progress in achieving your resolutions so far? If youre kind of stuck, heres the secret to making your resolutions work.
The secret to making resolutions that actually work is also the secret to making a hit movie. So let me teach you how to make a hit movie.
At the start, our hero lives their ordinary life. We wouldnt care to watch that for long, but fortunately all good stories push our hero through a door.
The door is something irreversible; once you walk through, you can never go back. For the Matrix, its Neo choosing the red pill. For Gravity, its having your shuttle sliced to ribbons. In Shawshank Redemption, an innocent man is sentenced to life.
The door is where the story begins. It puts our hero on a path they cannot escape, and the tension compels us to watch.
Near the end of the story, our hero must pass through a second door. Again, the door is one-way. But this door demands a resolution. To pass through it guarantees a conclusion, whatever that may be. Our hero must fight their nemesis to the death, or chase their love to the airport, or stand before disapproving parents and dance for their hopes and dreams.
Our unhappy hero wakes up one late December morning and stares at the mirror. Oh god he sighs, at his portly reflection. In the new year, I swear Im going to lose weight!
And then he updates his Facebook status, buys a copy of Runners World, and goes to the gym three times. The End.
If you want to make a resolution a real resolution youre gonna have to walk through a door. The smart, resolute part of yourself might be in control now, but you know thats not who will stop you. The lazy, stupid, reflexive part of yourself will be in control later, when the air is cold and you feel sort-of-ill-ish-I-think, and if you havent got something to drag that screaming brat out of bed you will fail.
You do this already, by the way. School, for example, is a door you cant well choose not to pass through, which is why you attended it so successfully. Your job works in the same way, as does marriage and children. Doors are irreversible and non-optional, and our society is predicated on them.
So you really want to start your own business? Try quitting your job; thatll take care of motivation. Want to lose weight? Sign up for a marathon in 9 months in an exciting foreign country, and book the non-refundable flights now. Or if thats more than you can handle, start a scheduled team activity where if someone misses out, it hurts the others. Guilt will carry you when willpower fails.
Dont jump on Facebook to announce your new resolution. It gives you a short term ego buzz now (Look at me! Im so awesome!) but does zip to regulate your behaviour (few friends will remember your promise, or be so crude as to call you on it). By all means involve friends, but make your pressures real.
Most of all, dont make the mistake of thinking wishful words alone will get you there. Nearly everyone fails their new years resolutions, which should be about as surprising as learning that the words avada kedavra dont actually kill people. Just saying words doesnt make a thing happen. Walk through a door instead.
Oliver Emberton is an entrepreneur, writer, programmer and artist who writes about life and how to make the most of it.
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